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Wingman for Hire Promises to Help You Meet Women
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John Del Signore
Published Apr 28, 2010
Modified Apr 28, 2010
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Guys, do women frighten you? Did the negs you picked up in "The Game" not help you score? Are your awkward friends merely babe repellent? Are you so desperate and isolated that you'd consider paying a stranger to pose as your friend and approach women on your behalf? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then make your checks out to Aaron Ellner, a professional wingman and Orthodox Jew from Woodmere, Long Island.
Obviously, Ellner's not the Vince Vaughn circa Swingers type, but he says that works in his favor. For $60 an hour, he will join you in your quest for romance, breaking the ice with attractive ladies and tutoring you on the mysteries of mating. "I teach people how to have a conversation," Ellner tells the Daily News. "Cocky pickup lines—they don't get anywhere. If someone has trouble approaching someone they're attracted to, I slide them in. And I'll drag them out if it's not working."
Ellner has been in a relationship for ten years, and insists he's "very pro-relationship." The testimonials on his website are glowing—"He understands the human psyche, speaks only in a matter of peacefulness and kindness, and looks out for all of those around him"—and besides the Wingman service, Ellner also hosts singles mixers and does a little couple's therapy. One New Jersey woman who was having problems with her live-in boyfriend called Ellner for advice, and after an hour-long session at their home, their problems were solved! "Hopefully, I'll have a followup story that I'm getting married," she tells the News. If Ellner's smart, he'll start offering "Best Man" services, too.
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John Del Signore
Originally from the Albany area, John Del Signore has called NYC home since 1995. In addition to his thousands of meticulously-crafted bespoke blog posts for Gothamist, his writing has also been published in The Awl, Deadspin, The Nervous Breakdown, and performed at The Brick Theater in Brooklyn.
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